“The true New Yorker secretly believes that people living elsewhere have to be, in some sense, kidding.” — John Updike
Strange for me, a non-New Yorker, to feel this way, but I do, and always have. In my heart of hearts I have always believed that I am just waiting around for my chance to go live in New York.
New York!
I’ve only been to New York once, and it was a weird trip. An ex-girlfriend, the best friend of a different and unrelated ex-girlfriend, and me. I can’t remember how that happened, exactly. I think I was waxing nostalgic or poetic or one of those -icks and managed to convince two saps into going with me, as if to follow that sort of spontaneous enthusiasm was to break with reality and veer off into the tangent where dreams and movies and great novels take place. If such a thing is possible, surely it is possible in New York?
We took the train in at five in the morning, no definite idea of the city or what was where, just hoping New York would lead us somewhere unexpected and wonderful. Beatniks invite us to a poetry reading? We end up at (or in) a Broadway play? We have dinner with a homeless man? We see music, a stand-up comedian, executives in expensive suits, the diamond district, a jewish deli, a mafioso, an italian pizzeria — what did I want? I’m not sure. Probably, all of that and more. At 18, it wasn’t so much what I hoped to see, it was what I hoped to become. An artist, a writer, or something better, something I couldn’t name, I wanted to unearth some primal part of myself, discover a bit of what destiny might have in store for me.
Well, we saw the executives, the pizzerias, a deli or two (couldn’t tell if they were jewish), and it was great: the buildings were tall, the people were startling in number and variety, the city felt as wild and as I’d been made to expect. As gigantic and crowded as it was, the mix of order and disorder felt somehow more natural than manmade, like watching birds migrate over the grand canyon. Times Square, as promised, felt like the center of the earth. New York awakens the possibilities in a person.
But where to go? What to do? The ex-girlfriend had vintage clothing shops on St. Mark’s street, and the (different) ex-girlfriend’s best friend had record shops. But there was no shop for me.
Jews
Maybe what I wanted, what I’ve always secretly wanted, is for a long-lost relative to appear at my door on, say, a dreary, raining November midnight, and tell me I’m Jewish. It’s not such an incredible idea; I’m already a mix of a bunch of maligned people groups: Russian, Irish, Cajun, Nerd — Jew would just kind of sum it all up.
It turns out you’re Jewish, this relative would say, so it’s time to write the great American novel.
The New Yorker
I get the New Yorker magazine, and I’m a proud reader. It makes me feel adult. I grew up surrounded by New Yorkers; my mom read them religiously. As a kid, those slick, modern cartoon covers ushered me in and then snubbed me, like a modern art museum.
After my mom died, I didn’t see a New Yorker for a long time. Generally, you don’t see them in bookstores or newsstands, and only the houses of certain types of people have them (but when they have one, they have five million, spilled all over the place, usually all unread). I never saw them in dorm rooms in college. The first time I remember seeing one again, I was in a therapist’s office seeking treatment for my depression (perfect). In the waiting room, I flipped open the magazine a little timidly: it felt as though I was putting on airs, trying to fool myself and the other nut-jobs around me.
Who does this guy think he is? I imagined the crew-cutted, leather jacketed, wiry looking 30 year old next to me thinking, automatically distrustful of intellectual commi-elitists like myself.
The article I read while waiting to by psychoanalyzed was about Vladamir Putin, a fellow Russian. Boy was it long, I thought. Pages and pages and pages. At first, my eyes wandered over the same few sentences again and again until my brain started picking up the rhythm of the writing — full of big thoughts and strange images tucked into asides and tiny, tidy clauses strung together densely and then pulled open like paper dolls.
I learned the Russians both fear and love Putin. He’s harsh, emotionless, efficient, and almost certainly a murderer, no wonder they fear him. But they love him too — he organized Russia. They call him “Our German.” So what made me fall in love with the New Yorker, made it seem like mine, was a bit about Bush, how he had gone on Russian television and spoken of a powerful connection between himself and Putin, one based on personal friendship and understanding between them. He told the Russians, “I have looked into Putin’s eyes and I have seen something of his soul.” It was a line the Russian’s found riotously funny. It was that word riotously that got me. Bush’s saying that was just one more desperate, violently tragic joke. A joke about as funny as burning your own house down. A Russian joke.
Smart for the sake of smart, I thought. The guy next to me would hate smart, especially for its own sake. Right? And shouldn’t I? I was still at an age where I believed that when you walked into a room people scrupulously investigated you out of the side of their eye to make sure your basic idea of life was just the same as theirs, otherwise, given enough time to come to full self-awareness of the threat you posed to their normality and given an opportunity, they would murder you to uphold the status quo. I’m not sure I’ve exactly shaken this idea, but I remember where I got it: high school.
Of course, he didn’t care what I was reading. He took out his cell phone and called his girlfriend. You could tell he had been in therapy a long time. You could hear the therapy working as he talked; he had internalized it. He would say something like, “I’m gonna see what I can do about Terry at work. Cause, it doesn’t need to piss me off. I’m the one who decides whether to get pissed off. And I’m just gonna decide that’s not something I need to do. I don’t need to be pissed off about this. I can take ownership of my own emotions here. I can just release that anger.” Stuff like that, not very convincing, but you could tell he was putting in extra effort since he was in his therapist’s office.
Woody Allen
Probably, the whole idea of going to therapy — and for that matter, living in New York — was inspired by movies and books about neurotic, Jewish New York intellectuals and comedians — something about masochism, I guess. I foolishly thought that actually wanting to be one of these people was unique. It looked so miserable, I must be the only guy in the world to actually identify. Now I realize there are jerks like me by the shipload.
It’s like that scene from Annie Hall where Woody tells his analyst about his reoccurring dream, he’s been crucified and monks are carrying him through the streets of New York. The monks stop at a spot between two cars and are starting to park when another guy on a crucifix cuts him off and takes his spot.
Masochism is never as romantic or lonely as you’d think.
JohnD 08:34 on May 24, 2010 Permalink |
absolutely brilliant.